Most people feel the same way about change….it’s unpleasant. Change in life represents the end of life as we know it, and a new life beginning. Some changes are good, a new baby, a wedding, a promotion, etc. Some changes include unpleasant occurrences such as the end of a job that we loved, moving to a new city, the end of a relationship, death of a loved one. In all events, it requires the adaptation to a new way of living, which can be scary, and uncertain, even include a large amount of stress. Stress can occur whether the change is a good one or a bad one.
Our fears lie in the uncertainty in change. And that’s OK. It’s extremely natural to be afraid of the uncertainty in change. We are afraid that we made the wrong decisions and will soon face consequences that we are not quite ready for.
Here’s why we should be OK with change. Without change, there is NO progress. Without change, there is NO room for innovation, and growth. Change is uncertain, but it’s necessary. Below are some tips on how we can a) overcome our fear of change and b) cope with the change in our life events and come out stronger.
OVERCOMING FEAR OF CHANGE
- Be PRESENT – it’s sometimes easy to worry about future events that have not happened yet. We are anxious and it’s natural to anticipate the end results as we THINK they are going to be. But if we take a step back and observe our present situation instead of worrying about a future that hasn’t happened yet, we are empowered by the decisions we make that will shape that future.
- Pay attention to your body and how it will respond to stress.
- Take deep breaths when you start to feel anxious,
worried,and scared about the change that is happening.
- Set aside time to relax and contemplate the situation. Maybe even focus and meditate to clear your thoughts.
- Be MINDFUL – change in life events is a good time to start practicing the methods of mindfulness. Be mindful of your decisions and the impact that these decisions will make on your life.
- Generate POSITIVE thoughts about the change in your life. – WRITE THEM DOWN.
- Look at change as an opportunity, not something to be feared.
COPING WITH CHANGE
- Practice Self-Care – change includes an end of something, a loss, and will be stressful no matter what the circumstances. Remember to care of yourself through this difficult time.
- Acknolwedge the loss and pay attention to the lesson learned.
- Keep up with your regular schedules, patterns, and routines as much as possible.
- Keep a healthy, active lifestyle. Eat well, and exercise. This will keep your thoughts clear and help with alleviating stress.
- Get Support of family, friends, counselors, and community.
- Be proactive. Don’t wait for life events to happen TO you, that is a reactive response and causes more stress. Be proactive in life.
- Step back, reflect, and adapt to your new situation.
Change WILL occur in life, no matter what. No matter how much money you have, how high a position you have in your career, and no matter how much power you think you have in life. Change occurs and we MUST adapt. We must cope, practice resiliency, and keep going, keep moving forward. Life goes on and doesn’t wait for you just because you weren’t ready for the change to happen. So roll with the change, and know that you can’t control much, except your response, and the way you adapt.