We all make New Year’s resolutions! But why do we? And furthermore, how do we make them stick?? I make them every year, with the BEST intentions to keep them! I also get my entire family involved with goal planning for the new year, and this year in 2019 it was no different. They all expected it, and we did our goal planning process together.
Now, I can’t say that we stick to it! Like I said above, I have the best intentions…but by the end of the year, we always kind of seem to lose our path toward completing most of these goals, and it’s started to make me wonder why.
I don’t want to be the kind of person who doesn’t reach her goals, and I think part of the reason why my family and I were not completing these resolutions or sticking to them, was because I wasn’t really treating them like goals. I was treating them like, well…resolutions. We set them every year, and every year we forget about them.
So I started to do some research. How do I stick to these resolutions, and make sure that my family does the same? Here is what I found.
New Year’s Resolutions – Why do we make them?
The goal here is to improve our lives in the coming year and create healthy habits. Progress is key, and we all want to create positive goals to encourage progress and disable negative habits. So, remember, with resolutions we are creating positive habits, and/or disabling negative habits.
The number one resolution that comes into place is health. Everyone wants to be healthier in the new year. Which is great! Health is extremely important. However, HOW do we become healthier? Are you going to incorporate a different diet? What kinds of lifestyle changes are you going to be making? These can all be done with resolutions and goals.
The benefits of creating resolutions each New Year are worth the struggle of keeping them. Progress, motivation, personal growth, and investing in you, are all worth the struggle.
How do we create successful New Year’s resolutions?
- Start Small – small, realistic goals are key. You can list large, long term goals, and from there, break them into smaller steps and goals that are easy to attain. This will ensure that you are not overwhelming yourself. This will also keep you from losing your vision, and your mission.
- Change one behavior at a time. – concentrate on changing one habit at a time. Create a new habit, or disable a current habit, just do one at a time. Don’t try to do too much at once.
- Talk about it. – Share your experiences, talk to others, declare it! Example: I AM working on my new fitness plan this year!
- Take it easy – Don’t overdo your plans, and your goals. Don’t try to take on too much at once, it will leave you feeling very overwhelmed and might trigger stress points that will make you want to give it up altogether.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself. – Remember that perfection is unattainable, for EVERYONE. NO ONE is perfect. I repeat, no one is perfect. You don’t want to put up a false image of perfection, this will always, ALWAYS, leave you feeling like you are not good enough and lacking in one or more areas. Because I repeat….no one is perfect.
- Ask for Support. – Ask for support in the areas that you need help in. If you are trying to lose weight, ask your family and friends to respect and support that so that you are not put in situations where you might cheat.
- Remember SMART Goals – Your goals must be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and be time-based.
- Write down your goals along with some actionable steps to achieve them. Try filling out a goal worksheet such as this and stick it somewhere you’ll see it often.
Why do some resolutions fail?
We all make resolutions with the best intentions of keeping and sticking to them. So why do they seem to never come to fruition?
Here are some reasons:
- Wanting it all now! – We are in too much of a hurry to get it all done now!
- We don’t believe in ourselves.
- We practice in too much thinking, and not enough doing. Not taking action!
- We don’t enjoy the process, so we quit.
- We try too hard.
- We don’t track our progress.
- We don’t have social support.
- We know our what, and not our why.
Here are some of my 2019 Resolutions:
I sat with my family, and we wrote and planned out some of the things that we wanted to change in 2019 – here are some goals that we came up with, to help you get started.
- Be off of my blood pressure medication
- Be more Active – hiking, swimming, etc.
- Enroll my boys in sports this year.
- Incorporate cleaner, more healthy eating habits
- Cook at home more, stop eating out.
- Adopt a minimalist lifestyle
- Concentrate more on experiences, and not things
- Spend more quality together
- Keep working on Garden and Aquaponics system
- Volunteer and give back to our community
It’s always important to remember why we are putting these goals into place so that we remember what is important to us. If we didn’t care about certain aspects, then we wouldn’t be creating these goals in the first place.
I think with all the research that I’ve done with trying to figure out why my resolutions weren’t sticking, the number one thing I learned is to treat these resolutions like they are GOALS. Because, really, that’s what they are. These aren’t hopes and dreams that we are just saying out loud and putting out into the universe, these are goals that we want to achieve, to put into our lives, and to really put into practice. So 1. Write them down, 2. revisit them every chance you get. And remember to read the checklist above to make sure that you are creating the best path, and following the best ways to make sure that the resolutions you create today, are still being put into practice, and that those healthy habits you wanted to create have been created. This way when 2020 comes around, you can look back in 2019 and be proud that your resolutions have stuck with you, and that you can move on to creating new ones.
Happy goal setting, and Happy New Year!