The whole world is going CRAZY over this series…and Peter Kavinksy! Girls, women, age doesn’t matter, we all want him!
Below are my thoughts on the series as a whole, and the science behind the allure of Peter Kavinsky.
My Thoughts on the Lara Jean Series and High School
I read all three books and my opinion is that they were excellent! It encompassed the trials and tribulations of high school perfectly! So many experiences in high school felt like the end of the world, didn’t it? I remember so clearly back then how serious I thought some things were, how it was “the end of my life!” and now that I’m in my (*cough) thirties…they’re weren’t so bad. If I were to go back and talk to my younger self, I would tell her that, all will be OK. When bad things happen, all we can do is….endure.
The Lara Jean series teaches that, exactly! Endurance. Lara Jean had very private letters sent out to the boys they were meant for, and through that, she endured. She stayed strong, and didn’t fall apart. She even met her future love, and best friend in this experience. So sometimes, good things that will come from bad experiences. That’s the second piece of advice that I will tell my younger self.
If you are a parent of a teenager though, do not discount their feelings of perpetual drama, and the seriousness of their feelings when they are freaking out about something that you don’t feel is too horrible. To them it is that horrible. Perspective is everything.
The Science Behind Wanting Peter Kavinsky
When reading this series and watching the movie on Netflix, I realized that the movie romanticized Peter K. just a bit more than the books did. In the books, he was more of a pal to her at first, and really obsessed with Gen. In the movie, it was a bit more like he was into Lara Jean….
I prefer the movie version of Peter K., myself. But the books are more realistic. Let’s face it, the movie version of Peter K. does not exist.
Which is why we all (women and girls of all ages) want him. He is he perfect, perfect BF. He will go all the way across town for korean yogurt, and consistently reminds Lara Jean how pretty she is, etc etc. He’s into her before she’s into him, and he tries. He tries sooo hard. THAT is what we all want. Ultimately, we want a boy/man to try, to put effort into winning us over, again and again and again. We also want him to be a pal that we can hang out with, have serious conversations with, and who will hang with our little sisters and brothers easily.
I think the psychology behind this is that he’s really the perfect boyfriend! He’s her best friend! When will girls understand, that at the end of the day, all you really want is to be with your best friend. If you have the ability to have a lover who is also your best friend, then I think you’ve lucked out!